In the past, I have long worked in business, which meant for me to frequent meetings to decide on changes to be made, problems to fix ... brief, words, words and more words.
At that time, I do not know NLP, alas ... and a good coaching would welcome ...
I now know that NLP and in particular the meta-model would have avoided many pitfalls and we would have saved a lot of time and energy.
How? Follow me if you want to know a little more ...
The meta-model
The meta-model is an invention of the founders of NLP, John Grinder and Richard Bandler. By observing the communication experts it models, they found a set of linguistic formulations that were particularly effective to understand or resolve situations. By analyzing
finely exchanges between therapist and client, they have isolated 12 types of "anomalies" in our everyday language. They classified these 12 forms in 3 categories we'll discuss here.
What is meta-model?
Literally, the term "meta-model" means "model of the model.
Human language is a model reality. The word "table" is not a table, nor the word "pipe" is a pipe to paraphrase Rene Magritte.
We use each time a model to represent reality, and this model is called the English, French, German etc ... brief language.
The meta-model is a model of the model, ie the language. It allows you to structure our understanding of words and phrases.
Why use meta-model?
The meta-model allows a priori, without question, without providing his own solutions (his world map, we say in NLP) and allow the caller to find its own solutions.
It also allows us to clarify situations of conflict, or simply blocking ("we must not ..."," it is impossible to ...", "Our customers know that ...").
The watchword of the meta-model is curiosity!
The three main categories of meta-model
Bandler and Grinder have ranked the 12 structures that were discovered in three categories. We call these structures violations of the meta-model.
Omissions:
When we say phrases like "the customer is informed," or "I am struck by ...", we omissions. There is something missing in the sentence so that the information is complete.
"Informed of what?", "how to hit? by a punch? stupor? astonishment? "
Generalizations:
Generalizations are, for example" we must send the order until Monday "or" This model is appropriate to any customer.
From a single example, a single experiment (if any ...) we can construct a belief that a fact is true in all cases. Perhaps it is the truth, but it is often useful to ask the right questions to be sure or otherwise find different routes.
"And what happens if the control point after Monday, or not starting?", "Is there really ever any customers for this model?"
Note that racism, sexism, ageism, and other "isms" are generalizations ("all young people are ..."," men ...", etc.)
Distortions:
We may also change our perception of reality to make it fit into our world model.
If I say, for example, "Mr. Doe did not pay me, is a crook," I distorts reality. Maybe he did not pay because he is on leave, or he paid but the check is in the stack on my desk! In summary
Without going into detail we shall have occasion to see later, say in conclusion that the meta-model is a powerful linguistic tool. Its power is used in the professional, interpersonal, conflict management, coaching in ... short, wherever we use language ...
Another name for the meta-model is "the model of precision," because it allows us to find the accuracy that has been lost between the idea that real, deep and nonverbal our minds and what we actually say.
Warning
Unlike many useful techniques, I would not say "in use without moderation." Quite the contrary.
When we speak, we are still violations of the meta-model. And by writing that "always," I myself am a generalization.
It is very difficult to construct sentences being totally accurate. It is both difficult, painful, boring ... Brief unlivable.
Then the meta-model: to good use ...
For those who want to learn to master it: come see us.
At that time, I do not know NLP, alas ... and a good coaching would welcome ...
I now know that NLP and in particular the meta-model would have avoided many pitfalls and we would have saved a lot of time and energy.
How? Follow me if you want to know a little more ...
The meta-model
The meta-model is an invention of the founders of NLP, John Grinder and Richard Bandler. By observing the communication experts it models, they found a set of linguistic formulations that were particularly effective to understand or resolve situations. By analyzing
finely exchanges between therapist and client, they have isolated 12 types of "anomalies" in our everyday language. They classified these 12 forms in 3 categories we'll discuss here.
What is meta-model?
Literally, the term "meta-model" means "model of the model.
Human language is a model reality. The word "table" is not a table, nor the word "pipe" is a pipe to paraphrase Rene Magritte.
We use each time a model to represent reality, and this model is called the English, French, German etc ... brief language.
The meta-model is a model of the model, ie the language. It allows you to structure our understanding of words and phrases.
Why use meta-model?
The meta-model allows a priori, without question, without providing his own solutions (his world map, we say in NLP) and allow the caller to find its own solutions.
It also allows us to clarify situations of conflict, or simply blocking ("we must not ..."," it is impossible to ...", "Our customers know that ...").
The watchword of the meta-model is curiosity!
The three main categories of meta-model
Bandler and Grinder have ranked the 12 structures that were discovered in three categories. We call these structures violations of the meta-model.
Omissions:
When we say phrases like "the customer is informed," or "I am struck by ...", we omissions. There is something missing in the sentence so that the information is complete.
"Informed of what?", "how to hit? by a punch? stupor? astonishment? "
Generalizations:
Generalizations are, for example" we must send the order until Monday "or" This model is appropriate to any customer.
From a single example, a single experiment (if any ...) we can construct a belief that a fact is true in all cases. Perhaps it is the truth, but it is often useful to ask the right questions to be sure or otherwise find different routes.
"And what happens if the control point after Monday, or not starting?", "Is there really ever any customers for this model?"
Note that racism, sexism, ageism, and other "isms" are generalizations ("all young people are ..."," men ...", etc.)
Distortions:
We may also change our perception of reality to make it fit into our world model.
If I say, for example, "Mr. Doe did not pay me, is a crook," I distorts reality. Maybe he did not pay because he is on leave, or he paid but the check is in the stack on my desk! In summary
Without going into detail we shall have occasion to see later, say in conclusion that the meta-model is a powerful linguistic tool. Its power is used in the professional, interpersonal, conflict management, coaching in ... short, wherever we use language ...
Another name for the meta-model is "the model of precision," because it allows us to find the accuracy that has been lost between the idea that real, deep and nonverbal our minds and what we actually say.
Warning
Unlike many useful techniques, I would not say "in use without moderation." Quite the contrary.
When we speak, we are still violations of the meta-model. And by writing that "always," I myself am a generalization.
It is very difficult to construct sentences being totally accurate. It is both difficult, painful, boring ... Brief unlivable.
Then the meta-model: to good use ...
For those who want to learn to master it: come see us.
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