Tell me, how many times have you heard that phrase? Dozens of times? Hundreds, thousands? Maybe you've even uttered or thought it yourself (but long ago, is not it ...)
Why do we say this?
Several reasons may push an individual to blame for an action on someone else. Among these reasons, the need for comfort, the desire to keep things as they are, the need for a stable environment around you.
Human beings need both stability and surprises. It may seem paradoxical, but stability allows us to reassure us and understand the world around us, so that surprises are the spice of life, which makes you want to move forward.
And stability is easier when it is the other change, rather than oneself ... And because stability is a vital need, we cling to them with great force, would not do to survive emotionally.
Human beings need both stability and surprises. It may seem paradoxical, but stability allows us to reassure us and understand the world around us, so that surprises are the spice of life, which makes you want to move forward.
And stability is easier when it is the other change, rather than oneself ... And because stability is a vital need, we cling to them with great force, would not do to survive emotionally.
In addition, many people simply do not realize that it is possible that the "fault" may be shared or what is seen is not necessarily what that is.
What does this mean?
The drawback to think that only other charge is that it is not possible then to change. I knew some time ago someone who was convinced that everyone was wrong except itself, and guess what ... During the time I knew this person, he has not evolved a millimeter.
So obviously, when two different objects, each has its share of responsibility, and recognize it is the first step towards change. It is a
mindset that we grow in NLP training or coaching to promote change.
So obviously, when two different objects, each has its share of responsibility, and recognize it is the first step towards change. It is a
mindset that we grow in NLP training or coaching to promote change.
Responsibility
One definition of responsibility is the ability to make decisions for yourself. In other words "be able to respond." Let
also the difference between the events experienced by a person and feel the emotions that person. For example, during an unpleasant encounter, you can not change the words we hear. The other says what he wants, and unless you use force or to leave, he can continue as he wants.
All people who have influenced and action on world took their own responsibility and decided they had in themselves the power to change things without blaming anyone for what happened.
also the difference between the events experienced by a person and feel the emotions that person. For example, during an unpleasant encounter, you can not change the words we hear. The other says what he wants, and unless you use force or to leave, he can continue as he wants.
But each of us has the power to change the emotions that arise in us. If we are angry is because we make angry. That may be another result that I am angry, but it's still me who "decides" unconsciously feel that emotion. I will not dwell here to detail these techniques , it is subject to full training.
Resume its responsibility is to recover its ability to change. Change yourself, change its relations with others, change the world around us.
So ...
maybe the next time you hear that little phrase "this is the fault of Doe," you may be another way to react ... But it's up to you, you are solely responsible for yourself, is it not?
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